…sir, please write to my father and tell him that I have values

…. said of the of students to me while undergoing value coaching as part of Gallup Strengths Coaching. Gallup Strengths-Based Programme gives importance to individual values. Gallup has provided a set of cards containing 28 values. Participants are required to choose five of their core values. Most of them chose more than five. Many thinks that all 28 are their values. They continue shortlisting till they decide on their core values.

One of the directors of an academic institution questioned me that the participants will choose the best and pretend to have those values without really having these values. To this my response was choosing and writing about it, then drawing these values and presenting their values to all present, embed values in their mind. These becomes almost like engraved on stones. Whenever a situation presents and when there is a conflict in the mind whether to do/accept something which is neither legal, nor fair nor will it stand the scrutiny of law/society/parents/children/ethics/audit, he/she will think; there is dilemma in mind; will take out his/her value cards and these values will provide umbrella to him/her at the crucial time in life.

Value has been defined by “Merriam Webster” as “having desirable or esteemed characteristics or qualities” 

“Belief about what is right and wrong and what is important in life: morale values” is the definition of values in “Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary”

Many parents, grand-parents and men/women of elder generations think that younger generations do not have values. They feel because younger lots do not behave as per their expectations. Naturally they will behave as per their inner strengths and feelings and NOT as per the desires of someone else. They will behave as per the changed environments.

I had the opportunity to coach 327 persons in the last 18 months. Everyone was made to select their values and I find general distribution as given below in the graph. I did not notice wide variations of values between the older generations (Gen X) and generation Y (millennials) and Gen Z. I had the good fortune of coaching students of Standard IX (15 years) and 78 years young lady; in between all age groups.

Here are data based on the coaching session that I had with the students of UNNAT (www.unnatiblr.org) on 10 October 2017.